Is it right to be in love with a man who is 10yrs younger to you and is a big flirt n has told his n

my sister is in lov with a man who is 10yrs younger to her she is 40 n seprated this guy loves her too n has done quite a lot ffor her but he is a big flirt n is having short affairs even physical with a lot of women this is in his nature n he had already told her about his nature beforehand.now she is in a fix she loves him so very much that she cant leave him n on other hand she is v v upset with his behaviour.the man himself went into this relationship first when my sisters marriage was falling apart but this man never came in front but helped her in every possibale way.she knows that he hs to get married one day but wants to stay as long as possible with him.both of them have started fighting a lit with eachother hurling insults.he says that my sister is old n ugly n he is obliging her by staying with her.my sister is goodlookig n she goes out of her way to do things for him.she loves him unconditonally n always takes him back after his every affair!!what should she do??HELP!!!!!!!

Is it right to be in love with a man who is 10yrs younger to you and is a big flirt n has told his nature b4?guy myspace

Very plain and very simple: she should leave him, and that has nothing to do with the age difference but everything with the way he treats her. He told her upfront how he is, and that, so I would say, is an excuse for him not to change and to continue as usual. There is nothing wrong with dating and even marrying a younger guy, but there is something wrong when a guy uses his "nature" as an excuse to have it as he pleases, yet, at the same time expects that the woman stays with him. A committment is a commitment and in a committed relationship neither one of them should feel the need to have affairs---that shows that there is a lack of committment on his part, and with that would I drop him like a hot potato if I was in your sister's shoes. Yes, it hurts, but a lot of time it is more of a hurt pride then hurt love. Love is a choice, not something that just happens, and maybe it would be helpful to her if she looked at what exactly this man is doing for her that she cannot do for herself.....Good Luck

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blah blah blah, he was honest up front so she has no right to complain about his behavior...if she doesn't like it, she should leave (their age difference is of no consequence).
read the book "he's just not that into you". it opened my eyes and helped me find the right man. also, it sounds like your sister has troubles with her own identity. she doesn't know how to stand alone without this man. maybe she should seek counseling to help her with her struggling self-image.
Either she is just in it for fun or she is a glutton for punishment. Either way there is nothing you can say or do to make her see this guy for what he is if she doesn't want to see it.
If she knew from the beginning what he was like, then there is nothing you or anybody else can say or do to change things. If they are starting to fight, she's grown enough to know that nobody deserves to be treated badly.

He may have helped her through a tough situation, but now it's all up to her to get her life in order. Just be there for her. I have a feeling that she'll be needing you soon.
now honestly, is this truly a delima for you. What on earth would anybody who wasn't legally retarded do?
Unfornatly you cannot stop your sister from making her own mistakes. You can tell her God created her to be a Queen and if he wont treat her like one then she deserves better. You pray for her and you be there each time to pick up the pieces and one of these days she will stand up for herself and gain enough respect for herself that she wont put up with it any more and you help her move on.
There is nothing you can do about it. It's your sister's choice and decision to stay with this guy.

You can try to find another man for her. But whether she will go for him or not only she will decide.
Well ! he doesn't seem a right person to me. Ur sis needs to find a life partner again... that 'll be good for her, no matter what the person's age can be.

But the person should be genuine %26amp; real gentleman to welcome ur sis into his life %26amp; save her rest of their lives.

If the man hurls insult %26amp; calls someone ugly... he is not the right kind.. there will be a pile of problems again if they get married.

Ur sis has to undertsand this %26amp; find a better person. Beauty lies in the heart not ext always.
10 years difference in a relationship like this is nothing to worry.

But, the main thing is to worry about is simply they are not on same page.

You wrote "he says that my sister is old n ugly n he is obliging her by staying with her.my sister is goodlookig n she goes out of her way to do things for him".

Your sister does not need him, she needs her head examined by a good doctor.

Just tell her to put a distance, unless she wants to be miserable all her life.

Show this to her (this replies to her). After marriage this will, and can get only worst, so tell her to think about it.

If your sister has asked your advice then it is, a good thing to let her know what others think of this relationship, and what you think of this.

But after all she is your sister and so it is worth a try. Hope she will come to her senses and breaks up before he leaves her for yet another girl or woman, and breaks her heart.
watch monday nights age of love and then answer that ????
Age difference matters much after 40,don't do it. One has to repent. [either spouse]
I think your sister is no way less then that guy. She too is very much habitual, dying for either his money or some thing else. You need to set your own house in order first. I think if she clears off him she could get many good proposals, which could be permanent in nature.

They both are haveing their hay time, just trying to have their own.

Let them ply, at the end of the day there would be goal .
its time she finds another serious and mature guy, from what you are saying it seems that this guy may damage your sister's self-worth save her, let her first think for herself and then let them talk it out among themselves. your sister is a experienced and mature person i hope she should be able to see what is good for her on her own, in your position you can only give her some wise piece of advice i.e is only when asked, at other times she'll need your emotional support and understanding.
You sister has no man in her life .... and you cannot give her something that this man can ... a good time ... at 40 she needs no suggestion and knows whats good for her .... i guess more then caring for her you seemed to ashamed of her act ... i think you should mind your own busines and let her enjoy the moment even if its there for a small time ....
More than the age differnce, it is the attitude that matters. It si clear that he wants to ahve differnt tastes, and had your sister in his mind only in that sense. If he loves your sister so much tehn he shall shun all his bad habits and come to her. Tell her to dump him and live a dignified life.